A minute with myself

Singlehood can be generally painstaking for a person who is constantly lectured by the society on the importance of coupledom. It can be depressing to see other people holding hands, whispering to each other, and enjoying the company of their other half while not being able to experience it themselves. I see that many of my close friends have already been in a relationship earlier or are in one presently. I observe that many of these relationships happened because the parties involved were subconsciously afraid or terrified of being lonely. Even though, the couple were a terrible match, they decided to give it a shot because of their bodily needs and fear of ending up alone. Others were a great match but didn’t have the maturity required to sustain a relationship. A few others grew out of love or had external circumstances dictate terms. While I am not saying that relationships formed during teenage and early adulthood don’t survive the test of time, but it is the society’s brainwash...

Concepts like Purpose, Passion and Drive have been occupying my mind lately. I cast my mind back to when I was younger. I remember that my father gave me a CD titled “the secret” which is a world-renowned documentary with real incidents of ordinary people describing the power of the mind. I recall that this is my first ever encounter with the word “Purpose”. As a teenager, the purpose of my life was simple – to get good grades in studies. I remember a time when in one of the clips in the film, a person mentioned that by manipulating the mind we could achieve what we desire (in my case it was getting good grades) even without having to put in the hard work. I thought to try it for once and see if it worked. So, before my difficult English exam, I decided that instead of focusing on studies, I would train my mind. The result was that I recorded my lowest exam score ever. Some years later, I realized that perhaps, I was too naïve to understand the contents of the documentary. Years went b...

Physical intimacy is the feeling of touch and closeness which one gets with another human being. In this article, I am specifically referring to the intimacy one craves for in a romantic or sexual relationship, however, this term is very broad. One can also have a warm tight hug with a friend, and it can be one form of physical intimacy. During one of the lectures from Jordan Peterson about the importance of touch in humans, an experiment showed that most of the orphan babies which had minimal to zero touch during their formative period died and the ones which survived had physical or emotional abnormality while growing up. The experiment showed evidence that physical touch was necessary, and it was a biological need. As humans it is inevitable to crave physical intimacy. People devoid of long-term intimacy tend to have negative emotions inside them. They tend to be isolated from the pack and prefer to stay alone. Conversely, some people feel lonely even when with a group. There is...

Every living thing on this planet is driven evolutionarily. Humans are no different. With the general classification of men and women, we are evolved as per our biological conditioning. Due to this reason, we differentiate the masculine from the feminine. Some character traits like physical strength, courage, leadership, and assertiveness are associated with Traditional Masculinity. Stereotypically Feminine traits are kindness, nurturance, sensitivity, supportiveness, and warmth. In the new world order, however, with the advent of Feminism men are taught to be feminine and vulnerable. Contrastingly, women are taught to become the bread winners and provide. While I don’t claim that it is a bad thing, but as much as we want to change the gender roles, we are disrespecting the rules of nature and evolution. Anyways, in a traditional household, the man used to go out in search of work and earn money for his family. He was supposed to provide for his family food and shelter. The woman was...