Importance of Real Masculinity in Men

Every living thing on this planet is driven evolutionarily. Humans are no different. With the general classification of men and women, we are evolved as per our biological conditioning. Due to this reason, we differentiate the masculine from the feminine. Some character traits like physical strength, courage, leadership, and assertiveness are associated with Traditional Masculinity. Stereotypically Feminine traits are kindness, nurturance, sensitivity, supportiveness, and warmth. In the new world order, however, with the advent of Feminism men are taught to be feminine and vulnerable. Contrastingly, women are taught to become the bread winners and provide. While I don’t claim that it is a bad thing, but as much as we want to change the gender roles, we are disrespecting the rules of nature and evolution.

Anyways, in a traditional household, the man used to go out in search of work and earn money for his family. He was supposed to provide for his family food and shelter. The woman was supposed to stay in the house and attend to her husband when he was back from work. Consequently, the pair used to make love after a long hard day at work and the expectation that tomorrow will be better. Growing older, the woman was supposed to nurture the children while the man was outside fighting for his and his family’s survival. Due to the advent of social media and technology, the narrative has changed. More and more women are occupying positions of power while some men want to stay at home and take care of their kids. Again, I want to point that this is not necessarily a bad thing.

However, due to this changing social norm, men tend to feel inferior. All men tend to have the masculine urge to provide for their family and be the decision maker (which is again evolutionarily driven). With women wanting to compete with men on that front, we see that more men struggle with self-doubt and feelings of discontentment with their lives. Many men seem to be struggling with modern day dating which has been converted into a game. This game is between top 80% women competing for top 20% men. This scale of rating men on their social and financial status and women on their looks or appearance is skewed heavily in favor of women. Men tend to be intimidated by powerful or successful women and don’t want a partner like that. Also, with the advent of dating apps, women have access to more men and can choose the best of them. Men on the other hand, must be incredibly good looking or have a high status to stand a chance in the game. This can be starkly seen in Western countries as they tend to move to a completely different reality as opposed to Eastern countries with traditional thoughts and values still prevalent.

So, as much as women have been empowered to take charge and lead, society has forgotten the men. What we see is mentally and physically weak men with no idea where their career and relationships are heading and find themselves completely out of place in the society. Remember, that society still needs strong bloody-minded men to construct buildings, be a fire fighter, fight wars, in mining and other physically demanding jobs. Men who cry are considered weak, when in fact, crying should be considered a sign of strength.

So, how do men cope in this new world order where they have struggled to be seen or heard? Data suggests that suicides in men is increasing at an alarming rate and men traditionally are involved in jobs with a life hazard. The only way men can become better is to accept their evolutionary urge; the unflinching desire to be a better version of themselves and to climb to the top of the hierarchical structure. Remember, Masculine men would always want a Feminine partner. In other words, a woman who would want to go through a man’s life problems, be there when he needs her emotionally and cares for him will always be in high demand among traditional men. In no way, I intend to imply that women are just there to please men. However, most men would want a partner like that; a partner who is agreeable. Masculine men in return will make sure that they give their partner the time of their life. They will make their partner feel special; attend to their needs, desires and wants and would try to keep them happy.

We all need not look farther than our fathers and grandfathers for inspiration. They toiled hard during the day in the sun in hope that their wives and children could have a better future. Their wives supported them in their endeavor so that they could raise better children. So, as much as the social media and society keeps on reminding us about how men are responsible for most problems in this world and the toxic traits in masculinity, the truth is that the world is in need of more masculinity from the men.