Liking and Love

If you like someone, you tell them. Isn’t it? But how do you know you like someone? Well, we all have different tastes according to our thoughts and ideologies.

You can casually like anybody from their face structure, jawline, dressing sense, body language, hair style, voice, eyes, eye color, hands, legs, cheeks or chin! You can like someone without even knowing them properly. It is like a crush which keeps on changing with time. At different times in our life, we start liking different people according to our thinking and maturity levels. Liking a particular person is naturally linked to our hormones and generally doesn’t last longer unless worked upon because it can be one-sided and gradually mutualized as two people start knowing each other.

The feeling of liking someone is generally associated with hormonal imbalances that occur inside the body. ‘Adrenaline rush’, ‘butterflies in the stomach’ and ‘falling head over heels’ are some of the phrases associated with liking.

Crushing over someone or liking someone is generally innocent and may or may not lead to lust or desire. If you really like someone, you don’t want to sleep with them instantly but you want to know them better, you want to become a part of their life and you want them to like you first. You don’t objectify the one you like, you don’t desire their body but you respect them and their thoughts first.

There are two types of liking: liking developed out of attraction and liking developed out of respect. Attraction is when we want one’s body more than his/her presence.  Respect is when you appreciate them just for their genuineness and for the great human being you think they are. The former doesn’t last much but the latter remains forever gradually developing into love. Lust doesn’t remain forever, people get bored of each other in a relationship but what keeps the spark alive is the respect and trust developed over the years. Once again, we don’t take into account the external factors that hinder the growth of the relationship between two people. Although we say our destiny is in our hands, we can only do little against circumstances.

The feeling when your crush texts you first, appreciates you for something or just plainly admires you for your one quality is priceless. So, I think going slow is the need of the hour. Just enjoying the feeling of hormonal imbalances is greater than the pleasure you receive during sex (literally?)!!

The foundation of love is liking and developing mutual trust and admiration. ‘Before being lovers, they were just best friends’. That’s why great love stories have evolved from lasting friendships. Just don’t overthink and go with the flow!