Forgive and Forget

“To err is human.” Errors are man-made. Humans make mistakes. People hurt other people by words or actions.  Such is our life that we are bound by circumstances and moral dilemmas. Every person having a sane mind and proper values and ethics knows his limitations. Everybody wants to live a peaceful life where they are earning enough to fulfill their families’ needs. 

Nobody deliberately wants to hurt other people unless they are insane.

In corporate world, people have to push other people down in order to come out on top. That doesn’t necessarily imply that they are evil or monsters. They are somehow bound to be loyal to their company and enhancing their own reputation even if it means that they hurt other people in the process. There’s 

nothing personal though.

Coming back to our personal lives, people make mistakes simply by not understanding the other person’s feelings. Human beings are unique. Different things trigger different emotions in different people i.e. something which angers me might not anger you and vice versa. In that way, just expressing your own thoughts which come naturally to you might create feelings of anger or hate or resentment in someone else (including your loved ones). Sometimes, that feeling is hard to suppress.

The consequence of this is that you learn to see the point of view of the other person and they yours. Not everybody makes an effort to understand others’ feelings though. Most people try to acknowledge your feelings, but not everyone gets what hurt you. That also doesn’t mean you hold something against them. It is naturally going to hurt you more in the long run.

Thus, the idea of forgiving is introduced. When anyone is making a genuine effort to better understand you, you have no reason to not forgive them. It also happens that sometimes people own up to the mistakes they actually haven’t committed. It just shows that they are ready to shed their ego just for the sake of creating lasting relationships with the people they truly adore and love.

We should understand that people are doing the best they can to better understand other people. They don’t deserve your anger or hatred. They deserve your love. The sooner you understand this, the more peaceful you get. Besides, there’s nothing noble in holding a grudge against someone and regretting it later.