A minute with myself

Concepts like Purpose, Passion and Drive have been occupying my mind lately. I cast my mind back to when I was younger. I remember that my father gave me a CD titled “the secret” which is a world-renowned documentary with real incidents of ordinary people describing the power of the mind. I recall that this is my first ever encounter with the word “Purpose”. As a teenager, the purpose of my life was simple – to get good grades in studies. I remember a time when in one of the clips in the film, a person mentioned that by manipulating the mind we could achieve what we desire (in my case it was getting good grades) even without having to put in the hard work. I thought to try it for once and see if it worked. So, before my difficult English exam, I decided that instead of focusing on studies, I would train my mind. The result was that I recorded my lowest exam score ever. Some years later, I realized that perhaps, I was too naïve to understand the contents of the documentary. Years went b...

Physical intimacy is the feeling of touch and closeness which one gets with another human being. In this article, I am specifically referring to the intimacy one craves for in a romantic or sexual relationship, however, this term is very broad. One can also have a warm tight hug with a friend, and it can be one form of physical intimacy. During one of the lectures from Jordan Peterson about the importance of touch in humans, an experiment showed that most of the orphan babies which had minimal to zero touch during their formative period died and the ones which survived had physical or emotional abnormality while growing up. The experiment showed evidence that physical touch was necessary, and it was a biological need. As humans it is inevitable to crave physical intimacy. People devoid of long-term intimacy tend to have negative emotions inside them. They tend to be isolated from the pack and prefer to stay alone. Conversely, some people feel lonely even when with a group. There is...

Every living thing on this planet is driven evolutionarily. Humans are no different. With the general classification of men and women, we are evolved as per our biological conditioning. Due to this reason, we differentiate the masculine from the feminine. Some character traits like physical strength, courage, leadership, and assertiveness are associated with Traditional Masculinity. Stereotypically Feminine traits are kindness, nurturance, sensitivity, supportiveness, and warmth. In the new world order, however, with the advent of Feminism men are taught to be feminine and vulnerable. Contrastingly, women are taught to become the bread winners and provide. While I don’t claim that it is a bad thing, but as much as we want to change the gender roles, we are disrespecting the rules of nature and evolution. Anyways, in a traditional household, the man used to go out in search of work and earn money for his family. He was supposed to provide for his family food and shelter. The woman was...

When you go on a date, you always tend to dress well. You get obsessed with your dressing to a point where you become a little self-conscious. You want to make sure that you want to impress your date to stand the best chance with them. Now, I am not saying that dressing well is not important, but to dress to impress is more like seeking validation. You are always sub-consciously thinking that you have more interesting stories to tell. You think that your date should listen to what you have to say rather than the other way around. Let us imagine for a moment that you free yourself from the expectation of looking good and impressing. If you are listening to their stories and what they have to offer, then they will feel happier indeed. This is because your mind is sub-consciously now programmed to portray the other person as interesting and your words and actions will convey a message that you want to hear more of them. In the above example, I want to stress on the importance of loving ...

Peeps, it is interesting how most of us grow up. I mean if we talk about a typical Indian middle-class household, with a working father and a house making mother, we are taught to struggle for everything. This is because by the time we grow up and become young adults, we are expected to earn a decent amount of money and take the responsibility of the family on our shoulders. I am fortunate to be receiving a decent education at this point of time when my Quarter life is approaching. Most of the people of my age, generally, don’t have a clarity of thought as to what they want to do in their careers and their personal life (and that is totally fine). Again, I am thankful to be having the clarity of thought in my career. My dear friend, who studied in Europe for years had to travel back to India because he couldn’t find a job there. He has been in India now for a few months and still can’t find a job there. I think luck plays a bigger role in your life than you anticipate. My German dr...

During my final days in my Bachelor studies, I was so frustrated to end my studies and concentrate on earning money for few years. I got into a decent job which obviously did not pay me well but was handy for the time being. I adored the way I was able to handle the pressure situation that arose there and the challenges that rose every day. However, after only about 6 months of work life, I had my first feeling of quitting my job and getting back to what I did best, and that was, to study. It is not like I know everything I study or that, I desire to study everything. But one thing is certain and that is that study is my comfort zone and University or college is a place where I think I belong. So, I had this deep desire of studying again and this time for a master course. After surviving two jobs and two massive COVID-19 waves, my plan of studying my masters finally came into fruition. Every step along the way came with a lot of frustration as I knew it was going to be a long and pat...

So, in the modern world with increasing urbanization and westernization, we can tend to be over-ambitious and at times, neglect some things which might be as important as our career and goals. So, in a similar urban setup, one husband failed to tell his wife about her workaholic attitude that was causing him problems. He, to an extent, even thought of separating from his wife in his mind. He realized that the damage was irreparable and hence, went down a deep swirling spiral where he was confused, anxious and worried about his marriage. This can be the story of any 30-something individual regardless of gender and geography. So, today I will list out a few aspects of life where the Power of Communication can go a long way in ensuring that we live a better version of ourselves every day and improve our relationships with our spouses, colleagues, friends and family members. Overcoming Depression and Anxiety: My friend was faced with a very critical situation of facing her gr...